Every mother aims to raise her child positively, based on modern parenting principles, avoiding the outdated methods of shouting, hitting, or suppressing the child, which harm their personality and deprive them of their childhood.
However, some mothers still make mistakes that undermine positive parenting. According to parenting advisor Aref Abdullah, three major mistakes to avoid are:
1. Interrupting the Child While Talking
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The Mistake: Ignoring or interrupting what the child says, thinking it’s unimportant.
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Impact: The child feels unimportant and thinks their feelings don’t matter, weakening their self-esteem.
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Solution:
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Listen fully until the child finishes speaking.
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Pause other activities while the child talks.
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Use body language to show support, like looking in their eyes, patting their shoulder, or kneeling to their level.
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Encourage them to express their opinion to understand their perspective and develop emotional intelligence.
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2. Yelling at the Child in Public
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The Mistake: Scolding or shouting at the child in front of others.
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Impact: Weakens the child’s self-confidence, creates shame, and may lead to introversion.
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Solution:
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Wait until you are home to address misbehavior.
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Maintain control of your emotions in front of others, even during family or financial stress.
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Protect your child’s privacy; never expose their mistakes or flaws publicly.
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Set an example of self-control for siblings and peers.
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3. Giving In When the Child Cries
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The Mistake: Immediately comforting the child when they cry, even after being previously disciplined.
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Impact: Creates a spoiled child who learns to manipulate for what they want and becomes hard to satisfy.
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Solution:
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Be firm when correcting behavior and do not give in to crying.
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Teach the child that actions have consequences, and crying does not always get results.
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Be patient with long tantrums; consistency helps the child learn boundaries.
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