Many mothers quietly ask themselves, “Am I a great mom? Am I doing my best for my child?” This question often comes from a place of genuine care—wanting to give their child the best in both physical and emotional health. Mothers understand that nurturing a child’s body alone isn’t enough—emotional and psychological well-being are just as important. After all, a child is a complete human being: body and soul.
To evaluate how well she's doing in her role, a mother can observe certain behaviors in her child. In an exclusive interview with Sayidaty wa Tifluki, educational counselor Aref Abdullah highlighted 5 key signs that can indicate you are, indeed, a wonderful mom.
1. Your Child Feels Safe With You in New Places
It's normal for children to cry or feel uneasy when entering a new environment. Whether it’s a visit to a friend’s home or sitting in a public place surrounded by strangers, children naturally cling to familiarity.
But if your child calms down quickly and feels safe simply because you’re there, that’s a strong sign of a secure attachment. It means you’ve created an emotionally safe space. These children grow to be more confident and socially capable—they carry your sense of calm with them.
Such children often appear more present in social settings, engage in conversations confidently, and express a clear sense of self-worth—because their mother’s support has shaped them into secure, self-assured individuals.
2. Your Child Runs to You When They're Scared or Upset
If your child seeks you out during a difficult or upsetting moment—even if the situation seems minor to you—that means they see you as their emotional safe haven. Whether it's a squabble with another child or getting in trouble, they trust you to protect and comfort them.
A wonderful mom isn’t just there for the celebrations and good grades—she’s also the first person a child turns to when something’s wrong. If your child hides or avoids you during tough moments, it may be a sign to work on becoming that safe space.
3. Your Child Talks to You Like a Close Friend
If your child opens up to you, talks freely, and shares their curiosity or thoughts—even if they seem trivial—that’s a good sign. Children are naturally talkative and curious, and if they choose to direct their endless questions and stories toward you, that means they see you as someone safe and approachable.
Be concerned only if your child finds someone else to be their “first friend” or confidant—especially someone outside the family. A successful mom fosters dialogue, not just discipline. You create space for conversation, not just commands. If your child confides in you, it’s one of the clearest signs that you’re doing your job incredibly well.
4. Your Child Imitates Your Behavior and Manners
You know you’re a great mom when you see your child mimicking your positive behaviors. Whether it's how you greet guests, say sorry, or even your tone of voice—your child is learning through your example, not just your words.
Children learn by imitation, not lectures. If your child picks up your habits and manners, it’s because they see you as a role model worth copying. That’s proof of your consistent, gentle leadership.
And when others compliment your child’s politeness or kindness, it’s really a reflection of your parenting. That’s a badge of honor any mother should wear proudly.
5. Your Child is Proud of You and Gives You Little Gifts
When your child picks a flower from the garden and brings it to you with love, they’re expressing admiration in the purest form. These small gestures—giving you trinkets or proudly sharing your accomplishments with friends—are signs that they value you deeply.
Even young children will brag to their friends about your promotions, achievements, or even little moments you didn’t think mattered—like fixing a bug problem or handling a tricky situation. In their eyes, you’re a superhero, and they want the world to know.
Final Thought
If your child displays even a few of these behaviors, you’re already doing something wonderful. Being a great mom doesn’t mean perfection—it means showing up with love, creating trust, and raising your child with care and intention.
So the next time you wonder, “Am I doing this right?”—just look into your child’s eyes. The answer may already be there.
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