Mothers often feel anxious and confused by certain behaviors their toddlers exhibit between the ages of 1 to 3 years. Many worry that these actions could be signs of autism spectrum disorder or ADHD, which are commonly discussed concerns today. However, most of these behaviors are completely normal developmental milestones and should not trigger fear or overreaction.
In a special interview with Nadormagazine & Your Child, Dr. Ruba Khaldoun, educational consultant and behavioral development specialist, explains the most common and natural behaviors seen in children from age one to three. From clinginess to mess-making, here’s what you should expect and how to handle it:
1. Clinginess and Strong Attachment to the Mother
It’s perfectly natural for toddlers to cling to their mothers during this stage. Even if they can walk on their own, you might find your child constantly reaching up to be carried, tugging at your clothes, or refusing to leave your side.
This behavior reflects the child’s emotional need for security. It does not mean your child is overly fearful or “spoiled.” Rather, they’re adjusting to the outside world and see you as their safe haven. Avoid mocking or dismissing their feelings—empathy is key.
This attachment can also be intensified by sibling rivalry, especially if a new baby has arrived in the family.
2. Creating Chaos Is Part of Their Learning
Expect your home to look like a tornado passed through! Between 1 and 3 years old, children are naturally curious, and they learn through exploration. This often includes opening drawers, emptying cabinets, and scattering items all over the floor.
Instead of getting frustrated, recognize this phase as essential to cognitive and motor development. You can begin gently teaching them about organization and boundaries after age three, using positive reinforcement and playful guidance.
3. Early Independence Is Completely Normal
As soon as toddlers start walking, they often believe they’re just like adults! Your child may refuse your help climbing stairs or insist on removing their clothes even when it’s unnecessary (or inconvenient, like during a visit with guests).
This is a natural sign of emerging independence, and while it can be challenging, it’s crucial to support it gently. Independence is a developmental building block that will serve them in later life.
4. Hard to Please? That’s Expected
Toddlers are notoriously difficult to satisfy. This doesn’t mean they’re stubborn or spoiled—it’s part of discovering personal preferences, especially when it comes to food, clothing, and toys.
Don’t label your child as “picky.” Instead, introduce new foods creatively, offer choices, and be patient. They’re still figuring out the world and trying to assert their identity.
5. Saying “No” All the Time Is a Developmental Milestone
Get used to hearing “No!”—even if your child says it with a smile. This rebellion is less about disobedience and more about your child realizing they are their own person.
When your toddler resists, don’t react harshly. Instead, offer them limited choices, and teach decision-making skills through small, safe choices. This helps them feel in control without encouraging defiance.
6. Fierce Attachment to Personal Belongings
It’s common for toddlers to guard their toys or belongings fiercely, even hiding them or crying if someone touches them. This is part of learning about ownership and boundaries.
Rather than scolding, use this as a teaching opportunity. Help your child understand the difference between sharing and protecting, and model respectful behavior toward others’ possessions.
7. Frequent Crying Isn’t a Red Flag
If it feels like your toddler cries all the time—for seemingly no reason—you’re not alone. Between teething pain, hunger, fatigue, or emotional changes after weaning, toddlers are often overwhelmed and have limited ability to express their feelings.
Rather than reacting in frustration, try to remain calm and ask simple questions to help them communicate what they need.
8. Curiosity and Endless Questions? That’s a Gift
A toddler’s constant “What’s that?” or “Why?” is a sign of a healthy, curious mind. Even if they can’t fully articulate their thoughts, they may repeat words or point to things inquisitively.
This is your chance to nurture creativity and imagination. Answer their questions using simple, age-appropriate language. Avoid vague or complex explanations that could confuse them.
Turn their natural curiosity into learning opportunities through play, and you’ll set the foundation for a lifelong love of discovery.
Final Thoughts: Support, Don’t Suppress
Your toddler between the ages of 1 and 3 is not being difficult—they’re growing. Their “misbehavior” often reflects healthy emotional, physical, and cognitive development. The key is not to suppress these behaviors but to guide them with patience, understanding, and love.
By staying informed and empathetic, you’ll help your child navigate this crucial developmental phase with confidence—and enjoy the journey together.
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