Etiquette for the Iftar Table During Ramadan

Ramadan is a beautiful time when families and loved ones gather around one table, whether at home or outside, with spiritual rituals and traditions. Along with these gatherings, there are certain etiquettes to follow when sitting at the Iftar table to ensure the moments are filled with respect and connection.

First: Before Breaking the Fast

1. Making Du’a (Prayer) Before Iftar: A recommended practice before breaking the fast is to pray to Allah, saying a special du’a such as: "Allahumma laka sumtu wa 'alayka-aftartu, dhahaba al-zhama’ wa abtallat al-‘urooq wa thabat al-ajru insha’Allah." This du’a brings blessings and opens the doors of mercy.

2. Not Delaying the Iftar Time: It is important to be punctual for Iftar. Arriving just before Iftar is ideal, and it’s better not to be late, as this sacred time should be respected.

3. Washing Hands: It is necessary to wash hands thoroughly before eating to maintain health and hygiene. It’s also recommended to eat while in a state of wudu (ablution).

4. Saying Bismillah: Before starting the meal, everyone should say "Bismillah al-Rahman al-Raheem" (In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful). If someone forgets to say it, they should say "Bismillah awaluhu wa akhiruhu" (In the name of Allah, the first and the last) when they remember.

Second: During the Meal

1. Sitting with Humility: One should sit calmly and with good posture, not leaning on anything. The body should remain upright, with hands on the edge of the table, leaving space for others.

2. Eating from Your Side: It is polite to eat from your side of the plate and not to reach across for food from someone else’s side. This ensures the meal remains presentable for everyone.

3. Avoiding Blowing on Food: Blowing on food is discouraged, as it can transfer bacteria to the meal. It’s not only disrespectful but also unhygienic.

4. Taking the Right Amount of Food: Take only what you can eat and avoid overloading your plate. It’s also important not to eat too quickly or slurp soup and drinks loudly, as this is considered bad manners.

5. Eating Slowly and Avoiding Hastiness: It’s important to eat at a leisurely pace, without rushing, and to avoid talking with your mouth full of food.

Third: After the Meal

1. Thanking Allah: After the meal, it’s important to thank Allah for the food He has provided and to pray for the one who prepared it. This acknowledgment of blessings fosters gratitude.

2. Rinsing Your Mouth After Eating: Rinsing your mouth after a meal helps remove any food remnants, preventing bacteria and potential dental issues.

3. Washing Hands After the Meal: It’s also recommended to wash your hands after eating to maintain cleanliness and personal hygiene.

4. Talking with Those Present: After the meal, engage in pleasant conversations with family members. Avoid discussing sensitive or controversial topics, and instead, focus on creating a warm, loving atmosphere.

5. Not Leaving the Table Immediately: It’s good manners to stay at the table a while after eating. This time allows for enjoying each other's company and nurturing familial bonds.

In conclusion, Ramadan is a time to strengthen family and social ties through the etiquettes of Iftar. Everyone should strive to follow these practices to ensure the month remains full of blessings, love, and connection.