Many mothers tend to spoil their young children with toys from birth, choosing soft, colorful toys. As the child grows, mothers often feel compelled to buy more and more toys, partly to show love and because toys are closely associated with children’s happiness. However, a common situation among most children—especially under the age of two—is that they throw, break, or damage their toys. Some mothers worry that this behavior may indicate aggression in the future.
Most parents don’t realize that this is usually normal behavior. They can guide their children to take care of toys while also learning to play appropriately, without damaging furniture or belongings. In an exclusive interview with Nadormagazine, educational counselor Lamis Jibran shared practical advice on why children throw or break toys and when parents should be concerned.
Why Does Your Child Throw or Break Toys?
When a toddler suddenly throws a toy, even while being entertained, and seems happy doing so, it is completely normal and healthy behavior. This action shows that the child is developing cognitive and motor skills. Throwing toys helps them explore their environment, understand cause and effect (e.g., dropping a toy produces a sound), and feel empowered because they see the results of their actions.
Children may throw toys or other household items to express emotions such as frustration, boredom, or a desire for attention. For example:
If a parent doesn’t respond to their call, the child may throw a toy.
If they feel ignored, they may throw a small object like a pen to gain attention.
Feelings of jealousy (toward siblings or even parents’ attention) can trigger similar behaviors.
This behavior is most common under the age of two, when children form strong attachments to their toys and personal items.
How to Handle Toy Throwing and Breaking
Expect it to reduce naturally:
Most toddlers stop throwing toys by around age two.
If the behavior continues beyond that, observe and guide the child gently. For example, you might suggest: “What if we leave the toy on the floor gently, without making noise?”
Gradually remove fragile items:
Keep breakable household items out of reach to reduce frustration and accidents.
Encourage activities like stacking blocks or building toys to help children learn that organizing toys can be fun.
Allow safe throwing:
Don’t prevent the child from throwing soft, unbreakable toys.
This activity helps the child develop motor skills, hand-eye coordination, and spatial awareness.
Provide suitable toys:
Use soft, rubber, or plush toys that are small enough to hold but cannot be swallowed.
Avoid scolding or punishing for normal developmental behavior, as this can increase stubbornness.
A Simple Trick to Encourage Play
Children are naturally curious, and restricting access to toys increases their interest. To maintain engagement:
Store toys in a dedicated box or cabinet.
Bring out toys gradually during playtime by asking, “Shall we get the toy box and play?”
This creates excitement and anticipation, helping the child appreciate toys instead of constantly demanding new ones.
Gradual and structured access teaches children that they cannot have everything at once and helps develop patience and appreciation for what they already have.
Key Takeaways
Throwing or breaking toys is a normal developmental stage under age two.
It reflects cognitive growth, exploration, and emotional expression.
Provide safe, unbreakable toys and avoid harsh punishment.
Gradually introduce toys to maintain interest and teach the value of patience.
With these strategies, parents can channel curiosity and energy positively, fostering healthy play habits and emotional development.
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